I once heard it asked, “What’s a Life Recovery Coach?”, and my response was, “Just what it means.... Life Recovery.” See, when people hear the word recovery, the automatic response is, “I’m not an addict,” and that’s true in part. We as society look at the word recovery in a sense of drugs, alcohol, addiction, cutters, and maybe to the extent of gang bangers and Beverly Hills brats that have everything handed to them including dope! But not so much the case. Have you ever had a crisis creep up in your life to cause you to feel stuck in the muck of life? How about the anger you have carried around and camouflaged it with the word “introvert”, so that you have shut friends and family far enough away to keep you and your anger cooped up or what you may think is managing your angry life.
Let's talk about the affair that has popped up in your life, that you had no control over because it was on the receiving end of your spouse. You’ve lived life with someone that you trusted far beyond what you had even trusted God, and one day to the next, you’re in this place called “separation.”
Your father has always been around, but never present in your life because of work, addictions or just plain introverted because he too has carried around a wheelbarrow of insecurity and anger towards something or someone that has caused him the same pain that he is projecting unto you.
There are many more experiences that I can paint a picture for you to see exactly what I am talking about, but I am sure you have a picture that you have placed in a frame of life that you either stare at daily, or it's tucked away in your spirit by the anchors of life that constantly weigh you down to the fullest. I want you to know that you are not alone. I too was that young boy in his 30’s and 40’s that felt a sense of stuck in my life, that I knew that I needed change, but I just didn’t know how. And there are many more of us out there that battle the same addictions, yes I said addictions of anger, bitterness, rejection, abandonment, envy, resentment and many more that have caused us to reside at the same address that the pain was birthed.
Everyone is recovering from something in life and no one is alone in this effort, but there are steps that have to take place in order for the rainbows from the rainy few days to begin to even appear. However, it does require one thing from you and that is…. EFFORT! The same effort that you used to create a world of separation from everyone and everything is only a tiny portion of what you will have to do to create a new mindset for your recovery out of that prison.
The first step is to RECOGNIZE.
You have to be willing to recognize a few things:
1. 1. Where am I?
2. 2. How did I get here?
3. 3. What did I do to keep me here?
4. 4. Where do I want to be?
Once you have asked yourself the real questions of life, then you are ready to tackle each and every one of them. And you may just have your own questions that you have been sitting on for a long time, either way, sit down for a brief moment every day, and ask yourself what you need to ask. I want you to pray my friend about how tired you really are, and how much you are willing to hold on to this pain.
My last question for you today is, “Are You Ready to Start Recognizing YOU Cannot Manage this Pain?” If so, here is a scripture reference to help you to understand that Jesus wants you to trust in Him and wants to truly give you rest.
“Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
Life Recovery Coach